I love how we go from a fairly good day yesterday…. to this.
I was finishing up two blog posts related to VRChat, and now it seems I have to make another one. But this time, it’s something.. quite serious. How serious? Talking to DJ at this point is a risk, which is why I was forced to block her to not be labeled as a suspect.
I’ve also voluntarily asked Kovo to remove me as an Admin, for security reasons. So I won’t be “inviting troubled people” ever again. It’s for the best.
So this has been happening for some time. DJ’s been telling me of a guy named ‘Byteee’ who’s been harassing her in the worst possible of ways, and was eventually blocked.
You’d think that would’ve been the end of it. Apparently this person has been harassing her on Twitter too, telling her “your fumed” which he started attacking her PC. But someone came to her rescue and saved her files from Ransomware.
After that, is when she got friends to help protect her from any more attacks. One of these was FrostBite. Yes, the FrostBite. The same one who gave me love advice and stuff like that.
When DJ went to Frost fuming over Byteee stealing credit cards using a bot, instead of giving advice on what to do.. he attacked her. Trying to ask Frost what the hell
happened, he won’t give me any pictures of it (saying I’m not of high authority).
What the hell made Frost so pissed off to turn on DJ? Something’s not adding up. But I never once thought of asking DJ “what did you send him”. If she showed me a picture that shows Byteee saying “K” and then showing the info… then it’s no fucking wonder why Frost got pissed!
This could simply be a case of misinformation (but on a very serious level). I pray it’s just that. ..Oh my lord, do I pray. It HAS to be. There’s no possible way DJ’s capable of stealing credit and debit cards!! SHE WOULD NEVER DO THIS!!
But my friends, even my close/true friends, do not believe me as I’m DJ’s friend. They believe Frost. And I don’t have a fucking leg to stand on to defend DJ’s innocence. The reason being, the evidence she gives is inconsistent. And I could’ve asked for better evidence. But I was scared for myself and couldn’t think straight. …Boy, I’d suck as a lawyer, wouldn’t I?
I was forced to give the green light to Kovo, and do what he needed to do. He banned DJ from the server. But that was only the beginning. DJ wanted to do a Youtube video to explain her innocence, but it’s too late for that.
The more I talked, the more fear filled my mind of what Frost said to me. It got to a point where I was forced to say “goodbye” and blocked her. I’m scared I’m going to be labeled as a suspect even though I’m not involved in this whatsoever.
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Because of this, that’s when I asked Kovo to remove me as an Admin. I’m praying when they see this, then Kovo “took appropriate action” to protect the server. But I also want them to realize this was my decision and my decision alone, that noone told or convinced me to step down. I also did it as Kovo told me “four people you brought in a server have bad history”. He meant this server.
So it was only right that I’d be removed as Admin, so I won’t be inviting anyone else with bad history… even though DJ is FUCKING INNOCENT!!!
Finally I muted the server and put it to the bottom of the list, in hopes to forget it. I honestly don’t even know why Kovo is talking to me. The.. very thought even my closest friends would turn their backs on me just because I tried to defend a friend of mine (who’s accused of something very serious)… brings me to tears. :'(
I..I dunno who to go to now, that would understand me!
Then, someone unexpected tried to friend me. It was one of DJ’s true
friends, ‘Wolfdog2007’. He wanted to know why I blocked DJ. I explained the entire situation, and he apologized for what I’ve been though. He’s very sweet, and charming. Helped to calm me down. I really appreciate it, and soon I’ll meet him in VRC and
hang.
He promises to (try) to help get me what I need to prove DJ’s innocence to Kovo, and put all of this idiotic nonsense behind us. Very much looking forward to it.
…But, I have to keep this quiet infront of any friends who know about this. If they know I’m talking to one of DJ’s friends, it’s game over for me.
I just hope Byteee is caught by the police and forced to answer for his crimes. He deserves to rot in prison for the rest of his fucking life for what he did to DJ (and others).
EDIT: Trying to finish all of this up and another post, I received a DM from Wufy that Frost’s Twitter account got suspended. Immediately the blame goes on DJ and/or her friends. But right now, I just want to stay far, FAR far away from all of this BS and just focus on enjoying myself in VRChat.
I’ll try to put what happened in the game in another post, in the games blog (if there’s enough want for it).
EDIT2, the next day: Seems my assumption of miscommunication was right on the money, and DJ has been cleared of any wrongdoing.
However, DJ herself… she needs to really wake the fuck up and reevaluate her
life, before she gets herself in a deep hole she cannot climb out of. And this time, I’m ignoring her cries for help. I’m DONE.. helping her.
But, I now know what actually set Frost off. It wasn’t DJ with the incomplete evidence, it was, my ex sending a message to him about it. “…Of all the people, why’d have to
be Jero!?” went through my mind.
*sigh* ..Focus. Focus. This thing with DJ is lot more important right now.
Woke up this morning, saw several messages on my phone. Assumed they were from Wolfdog finding evidence for me to give to Kovo (in order to clear DJ’s name).
Got on my computer, and saw I was pulled into a group call with Frost, Wufy and Kovo about this whole mess, plus seeing a few messages from Frost and even receiving a friend request from him, I didn’t look as I was scared what I’d see in it.
Wolfdog messaged asking me to join him in a call. I accepted. He showed me a video he did with Frost.. admitting, he was wrong.
What the FUCK..?! Uhh, I didn’t expect to see this at all. Thought Wolfdog was going to give me those pictures I asked for, not of him taking the matter into his own paws and somehow managing to get Frost to see he messed up and admit it.
Well.. mmm. I.. dunno how to feel about this. And before you ask “how is this Frost’s fault?!”, Frost saw the video DJ made of trying to prove her innocence, and he believed it.
..I’ll be damn. DJ did it! I didn’t think there would be ANY hope left for her! That, and what Wolfdog said helped to deescalate the situation.
..*sighs* Wish it was myself though. Feel I failed DJ as a friend. But on the other hand, it’s not surprising as.. well, you know me– I’m not good when dealing with pressure. So, I should feel thankful there was someone who knows DJ as much as I do, and was able to handle this a lot better than I could.
*nods* I’m very thankful for that.
I also (which I really shouldn’t) feel Frost kind of owes me an apology for scaring the fuck out of me, because I still felt pretty tensed up at the time (even though DJ’s now
innocent).
Time passed with Wolfdog sending DJ the messages Frost posted, even writing an apology in his Twitter feed. He asked me if I’m OK with him bringing DJ in here (as I was unblocking her) and I said sure.
I stayed silent through much of the conversation, letting Wolfdog do the talking. One time he asked me if I’m still there and I said yes, and then DJ says how she’s upset at me with how I said Discord would likely be monitoring her DMs.
I explained my defense in this, saying Frost gave me the impression and when it comes to Discord, I believe they scan DMs. And this is why I was forced to block her. Honestly I don’t really care at this point if I ever get an apology for that (as it really shouldn’t be that big of a deal to her), plus Wolfdog said that how she doesn’t have to accept it.
But she’s all about Frost: “I’m not unblocking that asshole!” Her reasons are
legitimate, but both myself and Wolfdog hope she will eventually forgive and move on. And that’s very unlikely as the wound is still fresh.
She eventually left the call, saying she wanted to “be alone with her brother”.
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Around this time is when Frost started messaging me, in a “please stop being so stressed out over nothing. Get your admin status back and relax” way. …It only caused more stress on me. I.. do not, ever, want to be put in that position again.
I did nothing wrong, from only trying to help my friend. But again, I feel as if I’m being blamed for just being friends with DJ. So even though Frost apologized to DJ, it didn’t feel like an apology for the stress I went through to defend her.
Time passed as I watched the group chat with Frost become active again, then Wufy asked me for my thoughts… ohh fuck. I’m dead. :/ “..My friends are going to leave me!!” going through my mind.
I took a very deep breath, and explained that I “had nothing to add”, as I “fear my words would be used against me”. Surprisingly, Frost said to ‘calm ur tits’ and Wufy explained how they “are not enemy with DJ anymore” and how I’m “the only one that can speak safely to her”.
My fear fully subsided. That enormous stress weight had lifted from my chest and I could breath again. Feeling safe to finally express my feelings toward this, I explained DJ wasn’t taking the situation lightly and that she needs time.
Frost caught her playing Fortnite, and I explained she’s with her brother right now.
“And I have tried explaining the situation to her, but sadly she seems to be making the issue worse instead of letting it go and moving on. All I can hope for is time with her brother will help with this.” -What I said to them.
Replace “I” with myself and Wolfdog. They will never know I’ve had beneficial help with this.
Then Kovo starts talking, seemed not intending on letting this go, being all ‘defend the server mode’. However, time passed and I really started to think about it, I actually saw what he said was some very valid points.
As in.. I doubt this would be the end of the drama with DJ. It’s her herself, being a problem, for herself. Even if she decides to move on from this, there’s no guarantee that a passing butterfly doesn’t come over to her and decides to call her the N word. That would set her off once again.
I said in one of my earlier posts, how I tried explaining to her that she’s going in the wrong direction if she wants to prove to people she has changed. She wants people to see a
kind, gentle side of her. ..This is NOT the way to do it! I don’t fucking get her. And this is why I haven’t been talking about her in my blog posts. I’ve actually been trying to distance myself from her, trying to avoid the toxicity.
I still care about her as a friend, but when she won’t listen.. it’s infuriating.
At the end of it, I still feel I deserved to lose my Admin rank. Not because of DJ
anymore, but the whole “four people you brought in a server have bad history”… I don’t want to be accused of this EVER. AGAIN.
Infact, I left the server altogether. Likely going too far, but..*sighs* why even stay there when I made the mistake inviting people in, that have a bad history? I don’t want to be reminded how much I fucked up. The whole King Chris incident alone should’ve been the final straw!
Kovo will likely see this and wonder what happened. I did it for ‘security reasons’. Simple as that. Did it for the good of the server, to keep it safe from people like myself who make bad decisions. :/ And I feel it’s fair too. Not asking for anyone to feel sorry for me.
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But, you know, if I could say one good thing that came out of all of this…? It was
meeting Wolfdog. Very glad I’m friends with him. It’s rare to find people close to my age.