Nighwolf15 and I are (online) dating now
First off, new news of me and Nighwolf15. Except, there is one stipulation that I agreed to.
So yeah, it’s official; I have a new online BF. Though it almost wasn’t. What I mean is he’s bi, but like me IRL. And I’m glad he feels like I do, of being somewhat weirded out of dating a guy IRL. Wuffer, I had to and I told him this, that he’s looking for an IRL relationship instead of an online one.
So the stipulation before he decided to be my online BF, is if he meets someone that is more his age (he’s 20) and really likes, he’ll tell me in advance he’s found someone and just wants to be friends with me, and I have to agree to this. And, I do agree. He also says the same thing for me (which is more unlikely than him finding someone), that I let him know in advance.
The reasoning behind this stipulation, is telling him how Wuffer keeps important things from me until it’s too late. and he wants to make up for that. Really appreciate it.
Hopefully this thing will last for a week, or two, or even a month. But like I said, I have to be willing to just be friends if he finds someone else. I’m glad he’s telling me this now instead of later on.
EDIT: I’m now having second thoughts if this was a good idea. Not only is he not fully
bi (never dated a guy before (even dating one online) and is “kind of weirded out”), but something I never would had thought I had to ask.. or maybe I should had and completely forgot to; if he’s into a closed or an open relationship. Since he had a GF, I assumed he would be into a closed one. But I discovered the opposite in a private world.
I can understand why he was in one and didn’t invite me to it, as he was waiting for a clan mate who plays VRChat to join him. But at the time, I didn’t really understand. And after two failed attempts to join (blaming VRChat’s servers on this), I finally joined.. the world Wuffer and I dated in.
When I told him the memories I’ve had with this world, he said “well Wuffer fucked
up”.. hmm. Never thought of it that way. But did he really? *sigh* Anyway, a friend of his joined in, who saw me and was quite surprised (and actually seemed angered) that he found an online BF. Uhh.. Nigh, why didn’t you tell me you were dating someone else? I wanted to ask him that, but not infront of this guy. Then Nigh looks at him and says “do you love me?” He says “I love your avatar”, and Nigh says that he was hoping he would love him IRL too, and I thought for sure it was over between them.
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Then some time later, the guy asked me if I would be “interested in a threesome”..
I’m not into that!! The guy approached me, asking “do you even know what a threesome is? Two wolves with a dragon in the middle.”
And this is when Nigh told me he’s into an open relationship. …Why didn’t you TELL me this sooner?! Of course he would just say “you never asked”.
I stood there stunned at the guy while petting Nigh as the two kept talking about how cute the guy is and if I was interested and stuff, and Nigh even said if this isn’t going to work out to let him know. And.. I should, even explaining the reasoning why I prefer a closed relationship.
At least, I feel I should. Half of me wants to, but the other half wishes this could work (and keeps canceling out the feeling I should tell him). Plus, even as friends, he wants me to keep hugging him and stuff. ..How? The only reason I’m even playing the game more is because of him. Still bored with VRChat otherwise. Socializing just isn’t my thing, having fun in the expense of others (aka Kovo), is.
But before I do, I got to know if he was serious about the open relationship thing. Because this and how he never dated guys, seems to conflict with eachother.
EDIT2: Turns out Nigh was both confused and joking, and I assumed right about him being in a closed relationship. He only met the guy two days ago, and the guy loves Nigh’s avatar so much that he wanted a wolf avatar too.
So that’s the story. Just to clarify, this has nothing to do with jealousy (though I could definitely sense it in that guy), only to see if Nigh was actually being serious about being in an open relationship.
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The issue persists…
With him hopping off to go play with his clan mates, I went hopping to see my other friends. FoxGrace was having some IRL drama in his life to deal with, and a few other friends showed up.
Then.. whammo; the fucking disconnect issue is back (and same as before). What’s weird is the chance for it to happen increases when I’m moving around (especially when spinning around).
I knew it wasn’t a driver issue. I may have no choice but to reinstall Windows (as it’s the only thing I have yet to try.. and it’s the last hope to fixing the issue).
And if a reinstall doesn’t fix it, it’s literally something I’m going to have to deal with
then (just like the ‘having to restart for the headset to be detected’ thing with the old hardware). Except this time, a restart isn’t going to prevent it.
EDIT: Nigh actually was up later than I’ve seen him, and stayed with him as long as I could in a Friends+ world (with my other friends). Zagro just so happens to pop in, and asked me how I like the new hardware. Said it was awesome.. except for one major issue I’m having with my headset.
After leaving Nigh to tell Zagro the full details of what happens (and telling him the graphics card I had), said he’s heard rumors of the latest driver update from ATI
having ‘issues with VR’, and suggested I try downgrading to the previous version. He also suggests looking in Device Manager and change the host controller that powers the ‘VR Ready’ port to something else, claiming he had issues just trying to get into VRChat with VR.
Asked him if he could walk me through this process at a later time, and he said sure. So hopefully with Zagro helping me, I would not only fix the issue, but prevent having to reinstall Windows.
Also, when I asked if the GPU being pegged at 100% usage could be contributing to the issue, he doesn’t believe so. All he says is that I’m now GPU bottlenecked (instead of CPU bottlenecked in the past), and might want to get a better graphics card in the future. So that’s comforting to know.