Whenever I think of Wurm drama, it was either with angry and I (or something that happened to me that I need to let off steam). But as you know, this ‘modern’ drama has been about Tulsi and I.
I know I’m not a good friend to him. And honestly (and I have said this multiple times), I wish I never met him in the first place (and wouldn’t even mind if he defriended me). We can’t really play the same games, because most of them require him to have something his parents won’t allow him to use for games (money).
Just to set the record straight, I do not hate Tulsi (‘hate’ is such a strong word). I have never hated him.
So what’s the problem this time? For one thing, look at the date: it’s November 1st, the day I start to redesign the deed. And it’s also when I assumed (based on him being active) that he would be done with his shed (before this date).
He’s still only done 2/4 walls of that shack. How can something so simple take so long, you ask? Real life issues (that might be happening to him) for one thing. Yet I also expected him to say “hey, sorry I can’t play, I got X to do” or whatever. Though I guess it’s wrong to think how others would react around me. Simply forgetting to tell me, is also a possibility. Anything’s possible.
This eventually went back to the age old “Wurm isn’t for you” discussion. But this time (going by the way I saw Wargasm taking care of that newbie(the way I should be taking care of Tulsi)), I tried a different approach. This time I tried “do you need help to build it?” Yet the way I say it, I’m trying to rush him to get done (which is kind of true in this regard). But I’m also trying to get him to a state where he’s enjoying the game.
He isn’t. He finds it being a grind (and frustration of failing to make planks). I tried to talk this over with him (saying that I know how it’s like and I’ve been there).. in other words, I’m trying to show him that it’s ‘OK’ to just talk to me(that I won’t yell at him), and work out this frustration. But my attempts seem to have no affect of his attitude towards the game. I expected him to at least ask something like “how in the hell did you deal with the grind?”.. yet I got nothing out of him. Just silence, and the feeling of ‘talking to a wall’.
Tried another approach: setting goals (which is the only reason I still play). Just something to get his mind off the grinding (by working towards it), and tried to give him some time to think about it. Again, more silence. Waited a few hours, and he answered “no” to if he had any goals(and I asked in a calm manner). I then told him that I have some sample goals he could follow (none of them were him getting prem… again, I want him to feel he’s enjoying the game, just like Xandice). Again with the “no” answer.
So now he seems to be refusing my help. Okay, fine. He doesn’t want help, he just wants to not enjoy the game. So why play it? Tried to hammer that into his head, and getting the silent treatment. And since he doesn’t enjoy it, to please give me my tools back and put them in his coffin. And he hasn’t yet.
What am I doing wrong, guys? I’ve tried everything. And of course I blame myself for dragging him in Wurm and expecting him to enjoy something I do. As I’ve said countless times (and this might not be the last), he’s much too young to grasp that enjoyment. Yet he refuses to just leave Wurm and go back to a game he would enjoy (like Minecraft), replying with “idk”.
I still need my saw and hammer, though. I cannot do this project without them, and I’m trying my best to not think he’s going to be a problem by refusing to give them back.
Luckily for both of us, there was no problem at all. He gave me back my tools, yet he seems to not want to talk to me about why he refused my help.
In any case, I hope this finally ends the drama with me and him, and he has finally seen that Wurm just isn’t for him (and should just go to something less grindy, like vanilla Minecraft).
I do hope that when I get this new hardware and have Modded Minecraft working good, that maybe I could host a local server just for us (of playing the Direwolf20 pack, or something like it). I want to play something other than Wurm with him– something he would enjoy.
I also don’t want to think that I might have to get a GM involved. Especially when I feel they’re going to tell me: “talk to your friend about this, because we aren’t going to do anything about it.” I’m reminded of what happened to Garit, of having most of his stuff stolen from his deed (and the GMs did nothing, only telling him to make sure it doesn’t happen again). Again, I pray this doesn’t lead up to that (and I can just talk him into dropping the tools with no fuss).
The silence, I have no idea what’s going on over there. He could be simply AFK or eating dinner (or playing another game) He needs to tell me these things. And not, is making it uneasy of trusting him with my good tools.
Again, all of this talk about “I’ll git GM on u if u dont gimmie mah toolz!!” is quite silly (and stupid). I’ve been with Tulsi long enough to know that I can trust him. The only reason he hasn’t given them back is probably because he’s upset at himself (or at me). I just need to talk him into giving them back to me without incident.
I’m probably just going to have to be patient. He’ll give them back with no issues, surely (as long as I give him the space he needs). Making him mad by trying to get him to give back the tools, would only make things worse.